Last year marked the 50th anniversary of L’Arche’s first community outside of
France, L’Arche Daybreak, in Richmond Hill, Ont., and, sadly, it also saw the
death of L’Arche’s visionary founder, Jean Vanier, in May.
For both of those reasons, L’Arche has been in the headlines to an unprecedented
degree, and people around the world have been discovering both the movement and
its founder, finding inspiration in its model of inclusive community life for
people with intellectual disabilities.
To really grasp what life in L’Arche looks and feels like from the inside few
could be a better guide than Beth Porter. Porter’s initial experience of L’Arche
took place on the Labour Day weekend of 1980. She joined the community full-time
in 1981 and has been an eyewitness to nearly 40 of the 50 years L’Arche Daybreak
has existed. In this book — half-chronicle and half-love letter — she shares the
growth and evolution she has seen in the community, and the transformations the
community has evoked in herself.
Porter arrived at L’Arche as a young university graduate and teacher, searching
for spiritual meaning and eager for community. She had explored great religious
and mystical thinkers through her undergraduate years. She had gone to Trinidad
to teach with Canadian University Service Overseas (CUSO) and had returned
knowing that she wanted to make a difference in the world. Her journey led her
first to the Anglican Church and then to Catholicism and repeated encounters
with Jean Vanier’s writings about community.
She decided to see whether L’Arche might be a good fit for her and vice-versa.
Her answer came in the form of a 38-year journey of discovery. She leads readers
through the friendships and daily activities, the frequent joys and occasional
frustrations, that are the threads of a remarkable tapestry that today includes
31 Canadian communities and more than 150 around the world.
Porter introduces us to dozens of people who have been part of the L’Arche
communities she has lived in, whether they are core members (men and women with
some degree of intellectual disability), assistants (those who live with them,
offering support and friendship), volunteers, leaders and friends of the
community. She has remarkably detailed memories, which allows her to sketch out
personalities, events and conversations — capturing both the way things unfolded
and her own impressions and reactions. She speaks lovingly and candidly about
members of the community, their gifts and contributions and, occasionally, their
shortcomings and quirks. She recalls moments of shared joy and laughter and
recounts times of pain and awkwardness.
She gives us access to a double inner life — the life of L’Arche (especially at
Daybreak) and her own inner life as she is stretched by people and events over
four decades. Her stories inspire laughter and admiration, but she doesn’t
hesitate to admit the rough edges that are also part of living in community. She
includes her own mistakes, conflicts and misunderstandings, moments of doubt and
questioning — so much so that the reader sometimes has the uncomfortable sense
of reading someone else’s diary with all its intimate and deeply personal
revelations.
There is an obviously tender love for L’Arche and the people who have
accompanied her on that journey.
As Porter repeatedly highlights, Vanier’s vision was of people doing things with
and not for others. It is a life of normality, where each person makes their own
contribution, both giving and receiving.
These stories are touching and evocative, and they make up the substance of this
book. There are two other elements, however, that I think highlight key aspects
of L’Arche Daybreak. First is Porter’s inclusion of a chapter about the late
Henri Nouwen. During his life and perhaps even more since his death in the fall
of 1996, Nouwen has been recognized as one of the great spiritual writers of the
past 50 years.
Porter knew Nouwen personally, as L’Arche’s pastor, as a community member and as
an intellectual she could engage with on the level of spirituality and ideas.
She presents Nouwen three-dimensionally and honestly, highlighting how he helped
to shape today’s Daybreak and how L’Arche shaped him as a human being and
priest.
Related to this is a second element — L’Arche’s ability to be both a Catholic
community and an open, ecumenical and interfaith one. Vanier came from a
profoundly Catholic upbringing, which left its imprint on his worldview and
spiritual outlook. But, as Porter repeatedly underscores, L’Arche has never been
denominational or chauvinistic.
Its worship moves comfortably between Catholicism, Anglicanism, the United
Church and the ecumenical Taizé community. Porter herself has been actively
involved in Christian-Jewish dialogue and has studied Judaism extensively.
Daybreak’s chapel décor includes a painting of a mosque, with the first verse of
the Qur’an written in Arabic.
L’Arche’s radical welcome and inclusivity extends to the spiritual realm, where
people seek to respect each other and learn wisdom from them. In that sense,
L’Arche is a parable of what is possible and needed in our fractious,
competitive world.
Accidental Friends is an ideal title for this book. Many of its characters came
into Porter’s life unexpectedly and unintended, yet her book makes clear how
those friendships were providential and life-changing. This book is a tribute to
how openness to friendship can transform us.
It is an invitation to discover our full humanity. It is filled with gentle,
spiritual wisdom and a cast of characters who remind us why L’Arche is such a
special gift to the Church and why L’Arche Daybreak is such a precious gift to
us here in Canada.
(Watson is a Catholic Scripture scholar and interfaith educator. He is the Adult
Faith Formation Animator for the Simcoe Muskoka Catholic District School Board
and has been a friend of the L’Arche movement for many years.)
Accidental Friends: Stories From My Life in Community
by Beth Porter
Novalis, softcover, 275 pages
$22.95